Don’t Be So Open-minded

What, what?

Yeah, I mean it. Don’t be so open-minded.

“If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything.” – Malcolm X

How can you say that?

Disclaimer: Open-mindedness is good. It allows us grow in humility, understanding, perspective etc. It is true that…

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Self-knowledge is fascinating.

Many of my friends enjoy conversing about personality tests. We’ve done the Temperaments test, 16 Personalities and Enneagram quizzes dozens of times.

And then there are the rare few who don’t believe in them because they refuse to be “boxed in”, understandably.

Personality tests aren’t meant to…

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Humility is an underrated virtue because very few understand what it really is.

This virtue/trait is often mistaken for weakness, shyness, submissiveness and fear — an obstacle to progress and success.

But humility is truth. Humility isn’t just acknowledging our imperfections but also knowing and using our strengths.

Humility recognises…

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Dr. Seuss’ first book was rejected by 27 publishers.

I encourage you to see failure as opportunities for growth. “Fall down seven times, stand up eight.” (Japanese Proverb)

Failure is inevitable. It is something that is part of human nature. It is an external that is out of our control.

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The irony of silence is that it is not hollow or absent of noise.

We are uncomfortable with silence because it reveals to us the deepest truths about human existence.

Silence confronts us about our vulnerabilities, weaknesses, shame and hard realities.

Human beings are really good at escaping their deep and personal realities. This is why people love crappy modern music at parties, small talk and fill their sentences with ‘ums’, ‘likes’ and ‘ahs’.

Some of the things I’ve mentioned above are forms of escapism. Escapism is a really bad band-aid solution, which deters self-knowledge and self-growth.

I’ve learned to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. It is liberating to face your deepest realities head on. When we face the darkness, it is when we are truly free.

Paula Ahillon

Bursts of candour. Posts are written and published spontaneously in 15 minute increments of spare time, sometimes via my phone while walking.

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